1,KNOW YOUR ANATOMY.Research says that it’s naturally easier for some women to orgasm than others thanks to factors completely out of your control like the distance between your vagina and your clitoris. You can’t suddenly alter your vaginal-clitoral ratio, but you can try different positions to increase the odds you’ll have an orgasm the next time you have sex.

2. COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR PARTNER.Heard this one before? It’s that important, but many women don’t always speak up. “If your partner is just few inches above or below where you really like to be touched or if things are too fast, too slow, or just not doing it for you, say something,” . “If you find it hard to talk about, try saying things like, ‘I love it when you…’ or, ‘It would really turn me on if you’d…’ or even ‘Can I show you something?'”

3. FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY, FOREPLAY. For many women, foreplay is a key part of the quest to have an orgasm. “It takes me longer to orgasm with penis-in-vagina intercourse, so giving me a head start before the real action gets going increases the odds of me orgasming from penetration.

4. STRENGTHEN YOUR PELVIC. Floor Strengthening your pelvic floor can result in better sex. “I didn’t have a vaginal orgasm until I started doing barre and Pilates regularly and then: bam! It happens almost every time,” says L.B., 34. Squeezing the walls of your vagina up and in and holding for a count of five can help you build strength—trying this during sex can even help you orgasm.

5. DON’T FORGET THE CLIT. The vast majority of women don’t orgasm from penetration alone—and that’s perfectly okay. Female orgasm is more about the clitoris, according to sex researchers, so when you’re wondering how the heck to have an orgasm, don’t forget to stimulate your clitoris before or during sex.

6. MOVE YOUR HIPS. It might sound obvious, but lying there passively while your partner tries to make you orgasm isn’t exactly the best recipe for success. Something as simple as “lifting your pelvis to meet your partner’s hands, mouth, or a toy might be enough to up the Orgasm

7. IGNORE THE CLOCK. You should never feel rushed when it comes to getting your orgasm—your body needs what it needs. Feeling like you’re on a schedule can be a problem, most females needs more time to reach orgasm.

8. GET LOUD. It’s perfectly OK to get loud. Moaning, talking dirty, whispering, shouting—whatever is your thing, do that, . but don’t pretend when you are not properly stimulated.

9. STAY PRESENT. Ultimately, “there is nothing better you can do than to really get your head in the game,. “Forget about work, the laundry, what you’re going to wear to that party and focus on nothing but the sensations you’re experiencing. Easier said than done yes, but it is possible.

Thanks for joining me!

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